As we go through life, there comes a time when you will receive criticism, nobody seems to escape it these days.
When you receive it from someone else, maybe at work, at home, from a friend, rather than take it personally rise above it and become aware and ask yourself:-
- Is this person experienced in the area you’re receiving a critique on? Are they really a mentor or someone with this particular ‘life experience’ to provide value and help to you? OR
- Are they someone who is coming from a ‘position of power’ and putting you down?
The thing to realise is that it is never about you, it’s ALWAYS their stuff. If someone is happy they will have great things to say, if not, they will spiral down and focus on the negatives. You’ve probably met people like this too haven’t you? You see as people our ‘egos’ tend to get in the way, and some people ‘don’t want to feel inferior’ around others, so they might ‘shoot’ them down.
Whatever is said though, look at it objectively and ask yourself is there anything I can learn from this and improve on.
So now you know all of this, the thing to do is to rise above it, show them compassion, love and see everything for how it really is.
Love Yourself First
To be compassionate towards others, we first have to be compassionate to ourselves.
Think about it for a second, do you ALWAYS say nice things to yourself, and treat yourself with respect as if you were your best friend, or do you tell yourself off when things don’t go to plan, or if you ‘messed’ up etc etc.
The trick is to pay attention to your own language, your internal self talk. Is it the kind of talk that’s damaging that you wouldn’t even treat your best friend that way. If yes, then STOP IT and treat yourself with some compassion instead.
For things to change YOU must change, and it starts with awareness. Practise being kind to yourself. Speak to yourself in an encouraging supportive way. Practise being your own best friend.
Then the next time someone criticises you, compassionately thank them for their observations without any resentment, staying emotionally unattached from the situation. It’s an art and an ongoing practice.
Wish It … Dream It … Do It!
Ok so you need a break from pounding the bitumin and pavements.
I hear you. Many a time I’ve been in the midst of a running training program and looking to mix up my cardio a bit.
Recently since I’ve moved up to Queensland, I’ve taken up more bush walking, swimming in the ocean, yoga and yesterday I did a hula hooping dance class which was so much fun.
So whether you want a break from your running, are injured, or just want to introduce a cardio workout which is less impactful on your body, then here are my top tips.
By far the best all over non-weight bearing exercise. A great tip if you’re recovering from an injury, is to do water running. Basically this is running in deep water wearing a bouyancy belt. For a video on water running click here
A great social cardio exercise that you can do on your own or with a partner. There are endless styles of dance from latin, salsa to disco. There’s sure to be a new style for you to sample, check out what’s going on in your town.
3. Bush Walking
Walking is a great low impact exercise that can be social if you do it in groups, and is great if you like discovering new countryside too.
Along with swimming, cycling is probably the preferred cardio exercise for runners. Again it’s very versatile as you can join a gym and do a ‘spin’ class, or you can venture outside on the road or on the county trails if you have a mountain bike.
5. Hula Hoop Dancing
I’ve rediscovered my youth with this one, as I experienced a 2 hr workshop yesterday and loved it. This is a perfect activity to improve your motor skills and body mind co-ordination. For some inspiration check out this clip here.
This is a fun outdoor activity popular in inner city parks and along esplanades.
There are so many different yoga types from hatha to inyengar and bikram. Yoga helps to improve your flexibility and conditioning, which are both important for runners.
Pilates helps to create a stronger, more flexible spine and core. This is essential for runners as posture is a critical element to successful running and staying injury free. It also helps to support and strengthen all the muscles in your torso, hips, shoulders and pelvis.
This is a great all round cardio exercise as well as strengthening your hip stabilising muscles that are used for your running.
10. Stand Up Paddle Boarding (SUP)
This is a perfect exercise for stability, balance and strength. It can be done on a lake, river or on the open water in waves. Rest assured, you’ll still be getting a good workout in your legs as you keep afloat.
This week I heard about an amazing surfer which just blew my mind.
To surf the Hawaiian break Pipeline is one thing, and a pretty incredible feat in itself. And for someone to surf it who’s been blind from birth, well that just takes it to a whole new level doesn’t it.
Introducing Derek Rabello from Brazil who was born with glaucoma, and has never viewed his blindness as a barrier to the ocean.
His fathers and uncles were passionate surfers and he just wanted to do the same.
He started surfing at 17, and 6 years on he’s on the professional surfing circuit, surfing with the world’s best.
So why am I sharing this story on a ‘running blog’. Basically because of the amazing strength of character, passion, persistence, strength, faith, trust and commitment to his dreams that Derek has clearly demonstrated on a daily basis.
Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in our own dramas of everyday life, and listen to ‘your negative self talk’ that shoots you down and talks you out of your dreams. And then you hear of amazing success stories of the human spirit, that washes your ‘imaginary dramas’ into insignificance.
In a recent Australian interview he said, “You have to believe in yourself. Go chase your dreams and you can do it if you want.”
A great reminder for us all.
Wish It … Dream It … Do It